Hi guys -- I'll pass along what I told eagle3 -- many of the women I play with just aren't interested in the "golf conversation" the way many men are. I work in the golf industry and have always loved the sport, so it's natural for me to take an interest. Plus, my kid's pretty much grown and I'm divorced, so I don't have a lot of the responsibilities many of my golf girlfriends do.
My feeling is that a lot of women would rather blog and chat about other things -- especially kids, relationships, fashion, etc. -- than talk about specific golf issues -- or non-issues. When I'm on the course with them, we're not talking about swing planes and performance, though shoe comfort may certainly come up! I'm trying to start topics that will interest other women.
And ladies, women, girls, gals -- how we're referred to depends on the speaker, the audience and the situation. Most female golfers don't take umbrage with any term as long as the context isn't condescending.